It’s Not Always About You

One of the highest forms of Emotional Intelligence is the ability to see the world from another person’s point of view. This is often called empathy. It is to relate to someone on such a level that you understand how they feel. In order for this to truly be an authentic empathetic response it must be given without judgement. Most people leave this part out and believe that simply because they experiences something similar, that this counts. Nope.

Many people find themselves unable to be empathetic due to stress, threat, or insecurity. It is very hard to give to others when you are feeling as though you are struggling yourself. I have also seen people under tremendous hardship provide some of the most authentic loving responses. This is truly amazing. 

I good way to spot the non- empathetic person in any conversation, is a situations whereby the talker immediately compares what they would do against the actions of the other person. It is not surprising that the person doing the comparing always puts himself or herself in a position of superiority.

Issac Asimov, famed biochemist and science fiction writer said “Your assumptions are the windows on the world. Scrub them off once in a while or the light won’t come in.”